Coco The Conversational Freak Gives Advice to Women About Ways to Restore Sexual Pleasure

So often when it comes to talking about sex and having orgasms, the topic is taboo for many women. At least talk in public or with a partner about it. Because of that, they will often wonder about the experiences internally. And most if being honest, would have tons of questions about how to reach one or whether they have experienced it at all if they had the nerve to ask. 

Sex coach, Coco the Conversational Freak, have found pleasure in talking about sex, orgasms, the vagina, feminine wellness, and women having self-confidence when it comes to their bodies and being fulfilled. She prides herself on inspiring and educating women to be all they can be in the bedroom sexually. 

Meet Coco The Conversational Freak. She has built a business helping women to enjoy sex, eliminate their insecurities, and become vagina empowered.

Give us some insight into Coco The Conversational Freak, who is she? Tell us about you growing up as a young girl, your experiences, and what led to where you are today?

Coco The Conversational Freak is the woman she needed as a little girl. I grew up in a very religious Baptist, Christian household. The only thing I knew about sex was it was forbidden until marriage. That led to me being sexually assaulted as a teen because of my lack of knowledge and exploring what “dating” was like in high school. After that event, I always felt like I lost something and someone that I could not get back but through healing and self-work, I became the woman I needed.

That’s an interesting “brand” name, how did that name come about?

Funny story, I was laying in bed with my boyfriend one night and we were talking about sex, business, and educating, and he blurted out, “My little conversational freak” and I sat up in bed and was like, “That’s it. That’s me in a nutshell. A freak who loves intellectual conversations.” Haha!

Sex, orgasms, and climaxes are taboo topics for so many. Tell us about your company and what inspired you to create it. Also, how did you get the nerve to build a platform talking about sexual topics, and then coaching about them as well?

I had horrible and traumatic experiences that revolved around sex and confidence, and it crippled me. It was the one thing in my life where I felt like I was held, hostage. I already knew what it felt like to feel trapped and insecure, I was ready to feel free and face healing. 

Because of that, I felt inclined to educate and create a space so women can feel free and unashamed while building their sexual confidence. My good friend once told me, once you know peace you won’t want to go back to chaos.

So often when we try to start a business or do something people don’t agree with, we hear a lot of negative remarks. What has been some of the feedback from your family, friends, men, and social media, both positive and negative, that you’ve gotten about the topics you talk about?

Thankfully, I have gotten more positive feedback than negative. I get a lot of women and also men who are thankful that I talk about uncomfortable topics because they still feel that shame and appreciate having a place to ask questions without the fear of judgment. As for those with negative remarks, I always remind myself opinions are not facts, and just because some project their own negativity and trauma, it doesn’t mean I have to accept them as my own.

Can you share some lessons you’ve learned about yourself after all you’ve been through that has helped you become the woman you are right now?

Lesson #1 If every decision you make when it comes to your happiness is based on the opinions of others, you will never truly experience freedom and joy. It is important to FEEL alive, not just BE alive. While you’re worried about what he/she will think life is passing you by while they’re living their best life.

Lesson #2 Breath and be very aware of who and what you allow to enter in your life. What and who you surround yourself with can either hinder or help your process.

Lesson #3 Every week take time to self-reflect. ALWAYS check in with yourself. You’ll find that sometimes you’re emotional, irritated, feeling out of whack, and can’t pinpoint it because you are moving too fast. Give yourself quality time to get back to you.

With your clients, what have been some of the biggest complaints people deal with in the bedroom?

Many women have issues getting out of their heads and being present in the bedroom. This can be caused by a number of different reasons, life stresses, insecurities, feeling like their partner is rushing, etc.

What advice would you give to women who are dealing with sexual issues? For instance: unable to have an orgasm, little-to-no sex in their relationship, they’re intimidated by self-pleasure, or are with someone who is overly sexual, etc.

Communication and education is key. We often get in our heads and worry about the response we might get from a partner and it deters us from expressing our concerns. After the communication also comes educating ourselves on our needs as well as our partners.

How does a person rebuild intimacy in their relationship when they feel it’s lost?

I always tell people to take a look at the intimate relationship they have with themselves first and ask, “What I am asking another person to do, am I holding myself to that same standard?” Also, how are we communicating the need to rebuild intimacy? It is not always about what we are asking for, but how we are asking for it.

You have a membership community called the “Wet Spot.” What is the “Wet Spot” and what is that community all about?

The Wet Spot is the community piece of The Conversational Freak. It is the house of sex confidence where people can come join our newsletter for tips and paid members to get access to virtual live workshops, access to replay videos, and many other perks.

How important is it for a woman to be aware of her vagina and how to pleasure it? Also, how important is feminine wellness to having a healthy sex life?

On a scale of 1-10, it is on level 15. Knowing your vagina and how she likes to be pleased is paramount to being able to teach your partner how to satisfy you in the best way. Making sure she is healthy is even more important because a woman’s vaginal health has a direct relationship to her sex life from how lubricated her vagina gets down to how it smells and tastes to her partner during Oral Sex.

You’re an advocate for using sex toys. Why do you think sex toys should be used between couples during sex?

Sex toys are a great way to bring back or start some new fun things in the bedroom. It can help you explore and expand your sexual fantasies and desires. You may find out new kinks and turn-ons you didn’t even know you had.

What do you love most about what you do?

The most satisfying part of what I do is women as well as men, feeling more knowledgeable about their bodies and going into the bedroom with more confidence.

What’s next for you?

This year I am going to expand and really focus on collaborating with individuals and brands to really spread the knowledge of sexual wellness, health, and the importance of confidence and education on an individual’s mental health. I am aiming to build a strong community that breaks the rules they were taught and learns to create rules they want. This year, I’m coming in HOT!

You can follow Coco The Conversational Freak by clicking the links:

 Instagram, Her website, Twitter, 

Writer, Debbie tokes is a contributing writer. Follow her on Instagram @ Iamdebbiestokes

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