Last year I was very excited to know I was on the path of graduating. In old fashion, you tell everyone you know; and it does not matter who is listening. As someone who was used to having let downs with negative consequences; I was finally graduating on time with my peers. I did not enjoy taking my graduation photos due to my low self-esteem. I never considered myself to be photogenic unless it is attached to a Snapchat filter or with good lighting; so this photoshoot was exciting.
I took the photos, got my garment, and went home with excitement. However, as time progressed my patience had begun to wear thin. I started to ask questions regarding why I did not get certain documents to say I was graduating. I even went out and bought a dress despite not being sure if I were graduating or not. On the date of my “graduation” it was an official that I was not graduating due to an error on both myself and my institution.
Not only did I have to retake a foreign language class, I also had to discuss this misunderstanding with my mother. This presented a major stressor that caused many conversations and even arguments in my immediate household. With money involved and misunderstandings, it was even more of a humiliating time. I learned not to tell everyone my success because I did not know if I was going to graduate again.
I must say going through that did not improve my mental illness or my anxiety at all. I began to literally make myself sick with migraines and constant worry that fueled my medical condition in unhealthy ways. I had to eventually adjust to understand that everyone fails and that it is okay. I realized that I had the power to change my narrative despite this setback. I had to learn 3 important facts to make healthy steps towards my success.
- Other methods could work better AND be more improved. Maybe this time around you have struggled and even dedicated long or grueling hours to come up with a plan that. Before you even think of it just ask yourself: why are you berating yourself? Your lack of knowledge and believing in yourself is what’s holding you back.
- Every mistake is a reminder that you are human. EVERYONE makes mistakes and that enhances your life experiences. While humiliated and even painful, some failures will keep us from being humble. If we remain stubborn in our tactics we are harming our growth.
- It’s all about “flexibility.” Let’s be real, the majority of us like to be in our comfort zone and STAY there. This actually means the total opposite of being flexible when it comes to failing or being down on your luck. We must discover that not everyone is built that way. It quickly becomes self-evident that you need to be more flexible. You can bounce forward and exercise some flexibility in your effort. Here is where the strength to change, modify and transform — or even spring out the traditional route conjointly and starting fresh — becomes evident.
My turmoil bloomed a transformation towards success. My success wasn’t just found in my college graduation but also in the inner belief within myself. I learned to exercise restraint, how to pace myself and how to accept hurdles as stepping stones. You can achieve this too. Embrace your obstacles for change.
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