Dr. Sandra Ingram, founder of Reflective Metamorphosis Coaching, has made it her life’s mission to help men and women rise above their struggles and walk in their full potential. Through her online trainings and in-person workshops in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, she guides people through the work of self-discovery and healing. She is passionate about transformative restoration, and her words speak with the weight of experience and the hope of change.
When asked what it means to love yourself in order to become whole, Dr. Ingram is clear. “You have to ask yourself this question: Who are you? If you don’t know who you are, then what are you loving or not loving? You have to accept who you are and embrace change. I think of it like a pie that’s cut into four pieces. You have to love all of the parts of that pie because it helps to make you who you are. Learn to love yourself beyond your mistakes.”
For her, healing begins with facing the root of the problem. “If you can love the parts of yourself that you don’t like, then you can love and forgive the people you don’t like. This is essential to getting the root out. You have to get the root out or your issues will come back up. That is really hard to do on your own, which is why you need coaching.”
Dr. Ingram understands the power of healing on a deeply personal level. She shared how she overcame trauma in her own life and how that became part of her process of restoration.
“I was raped by a burglar in my 20s. After that experience, I had to learn how to move past that trauma by doing the inner work on myself. That didn’t mean taking responsibility for someone else’s actions, but forgiving them and healing by loving myself. Like I said, when you learn to acknowledge and accept things that you don’t like about yourself, and be real with yourself, then you can process loving other people through the things they do to you. Don’t play the blame game with your trauma. Work through it, even if it takes some time.”
She reminds people that restoration is a process of change and rebirth.
“You can’t be restored until something in you is changed. You have to do the work for the change, and the new you is what’s being restored. To do this, you have to understand your worth — which is not earned, but discovered. You are not what you’ve been through. Those were stepping stones to the better you. A rose can’t be a rose without thorns and you can’t be you without the things you go through.”
Dr. Ingram offers practical strategies for facing life’s hardships, including her RELEASE method: Recognize the lie, Expose the root, Let go through forgiveness, Exchange the lie for truth, Affirm your true identity, Stand in your freedom, and Empower others. “Silence doesn’t heal, it hides,” she says. “We’re in this world to help one another. That’s how your trauma becomes your stepping stone.”
Through Reflective Metamorphosis Coaching, she sees many women struggling with what she calls an identity crisis.
“If you don’t reflect on who you are, you cannot change. I help women reclaim their worth, heal from their hidden wounds and realign themselves with their God-given purpose. I call myself the Root Whisperer because I help women to get the root out. You have to learn to embrace pain, which coincides with healing. Women struggle with caring about what people think about them. You have to strip down naked in the mirror, really see who you are, and learn to love that woman.”
For those hesitant about coaching, Dr. Ingram offers simple but firm encouragement.
“It’s hard to do this work without coaching. The question becomes: Will you keep yourself accountable? If not, it will just take longer to go through the process. You need people in your life to objectively look at you and your situation and help to hold you accountable. But even coaches need coaching. I have a coach for various areas of my life, and there’s nothing wrong with that.”
Through her transparency, her wisdom, and her boldness, Dr. Sandra Ingram has created a space where people can do the deep work of healing and transformation. Her message is clear: change begins with facing the truth about yourself, doing the inner work, and allowing restoration to bring forth the best version of who you are!
For more about her work, visit www.dringramlifecoach.com.
Images Courtesy of Dr. Sandra Ingram
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